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"It's 2014 - Get Organized!"

March 1, 2014

It's 2014 - Get Organized! 

In my divorce practice, I often tell clients one way to get started on a healthy divorce path is to get organized. Since divorce is a complex process, getting organized is imperative. Clients need to review their expenses, their budget, financial structure, life insurance, health insurance, and what type of financial support they will need for their children and themselves. But getting organized applies everywhere in life, so here are some of my suggestions:

a.) Simplify Your Life-Plan! Plan! Plan!

Don’t just run around doing things, plan to do them. Do your planning at least two weeks in advance, if you can. If you make plans, you will find that you will get a lot more accomplished. Just as you plan meetings and doctors appointments, plan activities, chores, grocery shopping, get-togethers with friends and so forth. When you have some structure you will find that life has a better flow and feels a lot calmer.

b.) Get Rid of All the Excess!

Have you looked around your home or in your closet lately? I know, it’s a scary thought. But I can tell you once you get started, it feels really good. It’s the best therapy you will ever have and it’s free. Do you really need to hold on to all those size 6 and 8’s now that you are a 10-12? I say pack them up and donate them to a local thrift store. You can also use this donation as a tax deduction. Getting rid of excess can put cash in your pocket.

This is not restricted to just clothes, what about books, nic nacs, old technology, the list goes on and on. You will find when you make more space in your life and your home you will make way for new possibilities to enter your life. Once you have weeded out all the things you no longer need, now organize what you
have left. Visit the Container Store, purchase stackable boxes and start organizing all your treasures. I find this really reduces clutter and when you implement a labeling system, you no longer have to waste time looking for everything. You will also take stock of what you have, so you will stop wasting money buying items you already have. This will save time, money and your sanity.

d.) Take a Little Time for Yourself!

You will be surprised to find when you start sorting out your surroundings, you will actually find some time for yourself. Organization can pave a path to serenity. You will find yourself less stressed and having lots more energy. Now you can focus on healthy eating, exercising, and taking time for yourself. When you begin the organization process, your mind and your life become less cluttered and that opens you up to endless possibilities. It’s never too late or too soon to get organized, so start today!

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Affectionately referred to as “The DIVORCE Doctor” Lois Brenner is a Divorce Attorney for over 30 years, an accredited Mediator, and a licensed Physician Assistant with training in Psychology. Lois Brenner is the Author of Getting Your Share, a book on divorce published by Crown. She has written for and has been quoted by The New York Times and New York Magazine. Lois Brenner has been interviewed on national television programs such as “Oprah,” “Good Morning America” and CNN as a family law expert. Ms. Brenner is in private practice with offices in New York and Connecticut.

To reach Lois Brenner call 212.734.1551; send her an email at  or visit her website at